Have you found lately that your friends just aren’t who they used to be? There may just be one friend that you think you need to break away from? Is there ever a correct time to break up a friendship?
A few months ago I wrote a post about losing friends in your 20’s and how that is okay. But do we always know the right time to end a friendship, especially those that have been going strong for many years.
Here are four reasons you may want to end a friendship.
Have you found that you are started to change around your friend? Are you being made to do things you don’t want to? We all go through friendships where you find yourself changing to fit in with your friend and those they hang around. If you find that you are having to do things you wouldn’t usually do to keep your friend happy than maybe it’s time to stop. You should never be put into a situation where you feel like you’re having to put a lot of effort into your friend to keep them around.
It’s effort to hang out with them
Have you found yourself looking for excuses not to go out? Sometimes we get to a stage where it is a lot of effort to go and see people. You feel like it’s a full on task just to go and see your friend. We all get to a point where we need a break from people but that should only last a few days. If you find yourself needing to have a long break from someone that means that you need to just end it there. If your are dreading going out with someone or going to see them then it is time to end it.
It’s one sided
This is one of the most important (to me anyway). You find that you are always having to message them first. You have to make all the plans. Guess what, something is wrong. A friendship is like any other type of relationship. It is a two way street and you should both be putting in as much effort as each other. When it gets to the point that you are putting in all the effort and they do not then it needs to stop. Stop texting them first and see how long it takes for them to get in touch with you.
Don’t support you
You’ve decided you want to do something new and your friend just laughs at you. Whatever you tell them you are doing they ignore. They talk, talk and talk but never actually listen back. This is the time to dump them. I know it’s easier said then do but this is something that made me end a friendship myself. Your friend alway expects you to go along with whatever they are doing but as soon as you try to better yourself or doing something new they do not care. They don’t check to see how your getting on or don’t care if you fail. This is not a friendship and it is not one that you should be in.