Next month I am going to be turning 26. I don’t know how this is happening, especially as I still feel as though I should be 22 and 4 years have not passed by since. I have decided to share a few things I’ve learned in my mid-twenties!
Things don’t get handed to you!
Growing up, you find that a lot of things are handed to you. You want a new toy, you will get that new toy whether it be for your birthday or Christmas you will eventually get it. Going to school, you want to know something then your teacher is going to tell you and spoon feed you the answer. Unfortunately though, as you become an adult this isn’t always the case. If you really want something you have got to fight for it. Whether it be something material or whether it be a promotion at work. You have got to work hard and go for it!
Self-care is important!
This is one of the main things I’ve learned in my mid-twenties but I have found that self-care is something I need in my life. Whether it be self-care for the mind, body or soul. Life becomes more and more stressful as you grow older, so you need to learn to cope with that stress as it is not just going to go away over night.
Friends: Quality over Quantity!
Growing up you always feel the need to have loads of friends. Yet, as you grow old you realise that they aren’t all actually your friends. I have lost a lot of friends over the years, not because we have fallen out but just because we have fallen apart. It’s hard going through a friendship break-up but you actually realise that it is time to part ways and if that are a quality friend then you are able to get in contact with them whenever you need to and they will be there.
Family is important!
I have always known that family is important but I find that as you grow older they become even more so. I know some people aren’t close to their family but at the same time they have people in place of them. Whether it be friends or just a partner. Family are people who will not let you down, maybe they have a few times in the past, but when you really need them they will be there and help you through anything.
It’s up to you who you become!
As you grow older you feel that you should have your life sorted by your mid-twenties but guess what. That isn’t how it works. Going through school you have people telling you what your goal should be and what you should be aiming for and you are expected to have you life goals planned out before you are even old enough to vote. But trust me, you do not have to listen to them. Yes, they can help guide you and give you a back up plan but you can change your mind as you are growing up and it is up to you what your aims and goals are.
It’s okay to be single!
I always though that by the time I was twenty-five I would be in a secure relationship, maybe married with a child. Now I look and laugh. I don’t feel like I should be married and I don’t feel like I am ready for kids but that is okay. There is no reason you should feel like you should have your life shaped out. You are a quarter or so through your life and there is plenty of time to be settled down, it’s okay to be single in your twenties.