Friendship is something that is very important and sometimes we lose those that we don’t want to so we have to repair a broken friendship. Before you are able to repair a broken friendship there are a number of things you need to do.
I have previously spoken about going through friendship break-ups, the correct time to break-up with friends and losing friends in your twenties. But, I have never spoken about mending those friendships and decided it would be a lot better to right about positive friendships.
Remember Why You Broke Up?
If you really want to sort out your problems and become friends again, you have to remember why you split off in the first place. Maybe you just grew apart naturally and you both need to put in the effort to bring yourselves back together. Though, there may have been a disagreement and you have both got to decide if the disagreement means more to you then your original friendship.
Take The First Step!
If it is really important to you to mend your friendship then you need to decent if you are going to take the first step or not. As we get older we tend to lose our friends but not because we fall out but because we get busy. Don’t think about this whole ‘they never text first’ ‘why haven’t they gotten in touch with me?’. Just remember that it takes less than 60 seconds to send a text so put the effort in yourself and make the first move.
Be Open To Forgiveness!
Did you fall out for a reason? There may be some big reason you fell out and you thought that you would ever get over it. Just sit back and have a hard look at what happened. Was it really worth all of the fuss? What would you have done in that situation? Should you have been more happy for them than angry? Sometime we just need to forgive even if we can’t always forget.
Take Small Steps!
You are never going to get back to where you were straight away. You may have been the best of friends but need to just take small steps towards becoming friends again. Even if it means that you make plans with others so that you are with a group and not just the two of you. Maybe other people were effected by your break-up so you need to repair more than one friendship. A little get together for some food or even just a drink can be the first step.
Use Social Media!
When it comes to friendships and relationships, social media isn’t always the best. But, why not change that and use social means as a way to repair a broken friendship. If you no longer have each other than drop them a friends request on one of the platforms. Still follow each other? Then drop a comment and an odd like on a photo. This can be the instigator in getting your friendship back together.
Listen To Their Side!
Maybe they have a different story to you. You may have fallen out over something that happened and ended up having a big bust up and falling out. But, they may think it was over something else. You both may not realise what actually happened from each others side and let other people get involved who have stirred the pot. You don’t even have to sit down and chat you could do it over the phone or even text message. Any way that makes you both comfortable.
Have you ever gone through a friendship break-up?
How did you mend your friendships?