This post was suggested by @simplysteph_uk on twitter, I needed ideas on what to do for my next ‘girl chat’ post. Embracing your flaws is something that everybody finds difficult. I’ve previously spoke about perfection, body shaming and personal body insecurities.
It’s not easy to tell somebody how to embrace their own personal flaws but there are a few ways to help prevent them. It doesn’t matter how much you compliment somebody, if they find something they do not like about themselves then unfortunately there is nothing you can say or do to change their mind. The only way for somebody to really get over a flaw is to find a way to live and appreciate their body and get a good understanding of everybody being different.
Sort Out Your Social Media!
The best place to start is on your phone. I usually tell people to sign out of their social media accounts as a way to improve their mental health and their love for themselves. This is easier said than done for some people but instead you need to have a clean out! Get onto those social media accounts and Strat unfollowing those that make you feel bad about how you look. We all have those celebrities or models that we follow online and when they post a picture in a bikini or a really good selfie you start to hate how you look even more. The best thing you can do is click that unfollow button. It’s okay to inspiration if you have a goal but you have to understand you are never going to look the same as those girls!
Stop Comparing Yourself!
So you’ve removed people off your social media to prevent you from comparing yourselves to celebrities and models. Now it is time to stop comparing yourself to everybody else. It may not even be the way you look but it could also be how far ahead some else is to you. You have to remind yourself that somebody not everybody is on the same chapter in their lives. It could be with a relationship, kids or even their career. Everybody goes through life at different stages and you have to remember how hard you’ve worked to get to where you are.
Make A List!
You do not need to make a list of your flaws because I know if I did that then I would fill a page. But instead make a list to yourself (could be mentally) about what you love about yourself. It could be a certain feature on your body or a certain success in your life. Make sure that you remember too love things about yourself. I have never met anybody who loves everything about themselves. Everybody has a flaw but we have to remember that our flaws do not determine who we are but instead help to shape who we are.
Your Flaw Could Be Somebody Else’s Dream!
When you are looking at yourself and telling yourself that you’re not happy with this flaw, remember there are people out there who wish they had this flaw. If you are unhappy with your hair, remember there are people out there that wish they had hair. If you are unhappy with your career, remember there are people out there who wish they had a job. If you are unhappy with your curves there are people out there who wish they could get them. If you are unhappy with the colour of your eyes, there are people out there who wish they could see. If you are unhappy with your legs, there are people out there who wish they could walk.
We are always going to find flaws in ourselves but you need to remember that you can embrace them and find a way to love yourself. Remember that you have something somebody else wishes they could have. You have something else that you love about yourself. It’s very hard to love yourself but even if it’s only for a split second you can find a way.